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Finding Your Inner Confidence

Written by The NSLS | March 17, 2025

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Eliza VanCort, a bestselling author, motivational speaker, and executive coach, is redefining how we approach confidence-building. Known for her expertise in communication and self-empowerment, VanCort has appeared on major platforms like The Drew Barrymore Show, PBS, and Forbes. Her latest venture is designed to help individuals harness confidence through actionable strategies rather than abstract self-belief. As she explains, confidence is not something we are born with—it is something we cultivate through intentional behaviors.

Reversing the Confidence Myth

Eliza VanCort challenges the traditional notion that confidence comes solely from within. She argues that the mainstream approach is flawed because it places blame on individuals for lacking confidence, rather than acknowledging external influences. Instead, she advocates for a method that builds confidence from the outside in—using body language, voice control, and strategic communication techniques to shape how others perceive and respond to us. This approach, she asserts, creates a positive feedback loop that naturally boosts internal confidence.

From Acting Techniques to Real-Life Empowerment

Drawing from her background in theater, VanCort highlights how physicality plays a key role in shaping confidence. She compares it to acting techniques, where changing external behavior alters internal emotions. By practicing assertive postures, controlling voice modulation, and employing strategic stillness, individuals can command respect and shift power dynamics in their favor. Her new course provides practical exercises that help participants implement these techniques in professional and personal interactions.

Embracing and Owning Your Space

VanCort’s work echoes the central message of her book, A Woman’s Guide to Claiming Space, which encourages individuals to step into their power unapologetically. She emphasizes that confidence should not be about shrinking to accommodate others but about embracing one's unique strengths. Through her course, she hopes to equip people with the tools they need to navigate a world that often pressures them to minimize their presence. Quoting the powerful words of Elyse Myers, Eliza expresses, "If someone thinks you’re too much, maybe they just need to find less."

Listen to this episode to learn about...

  • [3:26] Eliza’s theory that the way we’re taught to build confidence is “backwards” 
  • [16:32] How Eliza’s daughter's honest criticism transformed her keynote talks
  • [28:24] Eliza’s new initiative to build stronger communication within corporations 

Tune into the Members Only episode to learn the valuable advice Eliza would give to her younger-self

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